Self injury……… this very term bewilders most of us. I have been doing a lot of thinking about this topic since someone very close to me recently confided about their addiction toward s self injury. At first i was shocked and confused as to how can injuring oneself be of any help and was also very pained to see my loved one going through such pain!! I simply couldn’t get the emotions and state of mind behind the decision to go for such extreme acts. But, a little bit of research and analyzing has made me understand the mental mechanism behind such acts. i gathered that it is nothing but a coping strategy..to help the individual cope with the extreme emotional pain they are experiencing. Not all of us are adept at taking what life throws at us with a pinch of salt. Especially the people who have gone through some sort of troubled childhood.. long bouts of loneliness..trouble with friends or family..have low self-worth..or those who are extremely sensitive as well as introverted and do not know how to express or deal with the turbulent emotions they are experiencing.. are more likely to do it . The physical pain just helps them distract their mind from the emotional pain they are experiencing. It numbs their mind so that they don’t have to constructively deal with their emotional turbulence.
Self injury seems to be a very common phenomenon which is more prevalent among the girls than boys [ the ratio of boy to girl being 2:5 ] as they are more prone to internalizing their negative emotions. The most common ways to do it are cutting, burning or bruising oneself…picking at wounds…and also resorting to drastic activities like reckless driving or promisciousness. And every one of such 10 cases of self injury may lead to suicidal attempts.
The social stigma that is attached to this practice makes the victims less inclined to come out in the open and talk about it. People at times regard it as an attention seeking technique when in reality it is mostly done in secret and the one inflicting such injuries on themselves go to any length to hide their scars and other such marks. Most of the time, all they really need is some sort of a support system to help them get out of this mess. Talking about it is the first step towards self recovery. But we need to keep an open mind in order to help them come out in the open without fearing extreme judgement.Whoever likes to go on harming themselves!! It is essentially a cry for help.. which most of us fail to read or worse, misinterpret.
But, there is this thing i got to know…self injury can become addictive too!! During such acts.. endorphins are released which numb out the emotional pain and spread a relief kind of a feeling . Also, at times such acts provide them with a sense of ” being in control” of what can happen to them namely the beginning and ending of pain which can become equally liberating to them. It is no doubt a complex state of mind.. not very easy to understand but it is recoverable. It has been found that with change in lifestyle.. or say job and family conditions.. many people come out of such tendencies. When their sense of self-worth is re-established and they have a good future to look forward to .. such negative urges automatically make less appearances. They gradually become more able regarding coping with painful emotions and ultimately don’t feel the urge to resort to such acts. It is generally prevalent in the age bracket 12-25.. and with some help, care and support most come out of such tendencies. Just like any habit, it needs the will to come out of it along with a support system which can keep them motivated and assured. The road to recovery is a NO DOUBT a long one and it’ll need patience, will power and lots of understanding and selfless loving…but for helping an individual to be the person they want to be.. and get the happy fulfilling life they long for .. this much effort is indeed worth it. 🙂
Now that i have a clearer concept of what self-injury is essentially about, i’m feeling a lot more confident regarding helping my loved one deal with it. It is not a character flaw or mental illness.. it is just a coping strategy of an individual unable to express his/her pain. One needs to be very patient and non-judgemental when dealing with such cases as the individual is already troubled enough. For my part, i am confident that i’ll be able to bring my friend out of that habit of getting into a “black hole” into the brightness of self worth and a good life. My friend deserves it..deserves to be at peace..be happy and love life with all its little quirks.. and i’ll make sure i help them get it. Nothing could mean more to me than this… 🙂